"Stop doing so much, try to be more" or similar sentences is what I get to hear often. I am a person who gets up early, is busy with a lot of different things throughout the day, not managing to just "lie down and relax" often.
When I feel the need to relax from task A, I grab task B instead. When that feels too much for me, I might be inclined to even start a new task. There might be a task management problem with that, which actually sometimes stresses me out a bit, but I get happiness through the underlying process.
The point is: I really like what I do.
I am intrinsically motivated to look out for problems, grab them, analyze them, think about them, read about them and try to solve them.
I feel happy, get calm, can get rid of a headache by executing a fulfilling task.
"But can't you also just stop for a moment?"
Well, yes, I can. It often leads to me being bored.
I notice a strong urge arising in myself. When my thoughts start appearing, I might get focused and lost in something so much that I cannot concentrate on anything else anymore. It would be sooo cool if I did it like that, could it work out? How do I start? I want to do that now.
For sure, I might also be in situations where I enjoy spending time with a person or a group of people without doing anything productive. It can be a quite intense time even, it is just that this to me feels like holiday. I am unable to be on holiday for weeks, I would rather use the time to continue one of the thousand things I have in my mind - or start thing 1001.
That does not mean that I don't need time to think about thoughts, feelings, emotions and meaning. A simple, repetitive task is where I can do this best.
Washing up, mowing the lawn, preparing tea, mopping the floor, sitting in a meeting I am not interested in - these are good opportunities for me to reflect, think about myself, etc. It gives me energy, provides me with an overview of what is going on with me: what do I want, what am I missing?
Meditating, sitting with a group of people, just sitting somewhere with a notebook - it is not that this doesn't work at all for me, but it is draining. It may allow me to focus on some feelings, get some details clear, but I don't enjoy it. Invite me into two hours of such a section and I might fall asleep afterwards.
Whenever something arises in me, I feel that I would like to do something about it by getting active.
- It feels like I am not bringing a change to the world I would like to see? Well, back to work. Alternatively, think about and try a different work.
- Too many things going on in my head? Make a list, start at the top. Be fulfilled, whenever a thing gets ticked.
- Feeling sad through emotions I cannot change? Grab a task. Either a simple one to be able to go deeper into the feelings, otherwise something that occupies my brain.
I was inspired to writing this blog post two weeks ago when I read one about the balance between being and doing.
I am not 100% satisfied with the way I laid out the points as I would like to make you understand how I feel, be and do.
That doing is right for me :-)
That I am happy even when I complain a bit.
That I generally enjoy my life although there is always room to change it.